93,94 & some of 95

1993 and 1994 and part of 1995 was pretty much quiet! David's dad had sold the plane right after Bri was born so he didn't do much fun time flying, the only time he flew was for work. Yeah he was home more with us but didn't do much just sat on his rocker, and watched the weather channel and or CNN, Brittany would ask him to do things BUT his answer was always NO,

He never played ball with the boys! The boys didn't start playing football until the yr our neighbors moved in up the street and that was only about 3-4 yrs ago!

 I became pregnant with Brent at the end of 1994.

David's grandmother became ill, a brain tumor! She was 75 in March of 1995 and lost her battle in May 1995 , at her bed side she could barely talk.. But she montioned for me to come over to her, she whispered something in my ear , I could hear her and I asked her to repeat herself... I felt so bad. :*(  BUT she touched my belly and said it again! So I am positive she told me to tell the baby she loved him!

I miss the women so much! She was the glue that held that family together!

Brittany was almost 5, BUT she has memories of her grandmom from when she was 2! and I never really told her ...Not this one anyway She says she remembers ( we use to go to bible school with her on tuesdays) Well Brittany remembers we were sitting on the living room floor and I was fixing her hair and her grandmom came in and she ( Brittany) remembers seeing her grandmom's reflection in the mirror and got all excited! She use to bring Brittany apples and grapes every tuesday! Brittany really looked forward to that! Grandmom use to go real slow past the farms so Brittany could see the cows! Or she would slow down I mean real down so when we were going past a horse and buggy (amish country here). we were actaully going the same speed as the buggy, so Brittany could see! Brittany was her first Great Grand Child and I think she thought she was the best thing since sliced bread!

I miss her so much! If she were still here nothing that happended next would have happened!

Because after she passed away things just started to come unglued! 

 

1993

Brian was born Feb, David's first son! You would think he would be more helpful! He probably changed 3 diapers the whole time he was in diapers!

His dad sold their airplane that yr too! Thank Goodness, David was home more now! He wasn't much help but he was home!

He never wanted to do anything with us on the weekends! He claimed he worked all week and was tired! Like I sat home and watched oprah and ate bon-bons all day!!! @@

 

I made a comment once to David in front of his dad about spending time with his kids more!

His dad pretty much again told me to shut up, that he never spent time with his kids until they were 7!!!!

I didn't think about it then BUT yrs later it would make prefect sense and it would go with what R had told me the night we met in 1988! 5 yrs later thoughts of him still went through my head...

memories of him would go through my head especially when we would go "HOME" to visit his ( David's) family, we had to drive past the firehouse!

At one point he had forbidded me to see my family! He told me they were crazy! Like his family could do NO wrong! EVEN if they did do wrong ( which will come to light soon) they would deny it STILL to this day!!!!

1992

We did lots of flying that year going to Niagara Falls a lot, Maine and Martha's Vineyard and even Kalamazoo Michigan! One night  we even flew to Fal. just for dinner and back again!

Of course his dad was with us pretty much every flight! Except the one to Maine! It was work related! I am suprised he didn't some how weasle his way into going! @@

We came pregnant with Brian that year!

1991

We bought our first home, moved out of our apartment and moved into our home! I didn't really like the house to much! BUT again I was pretty much told in so many words "shut up and sign!"

His dad and mom gave us the closing cost money as a gift! BUT his father seemed to think otherwise! He still came up a lot and everytime he would tell people "WE have a nice house here!"  Like who the heck is WE???  When moving in I put a chair where I WANTED IT and went out to get a box from the truck and came back in and it was facing the oppiste direction of the way I had it, It was facing the door, like I want to have my back to where the TV  hook was! @@ So I switched it to the way I wanted and again went out to get another box! Came back in and the chair was moved again! UGH!!!!! Stupid man get the hint it is MY house I want MY chair this way! and moved it again! After that it stayed my way! I was made to unpack ech box as they came into! I was not to have any boxes with stuff in them by the end of the night! ALL David did was move furinture and stuff I was made to do ALL the unpacking!

Brittany just learned to walk that week too!

We moved a month after her first birthday!

And it was the week of Halloween!!!

March 1990 - Dec 1990

After I left then came back things got a little better. David started to take me on his flights with his dad!

While I was pregnant with Brittany we didn't know if she was a boy or girl and I didn't want to call her , she, he or it... So I nicknamed her doodlebug! 

Sept. 10 1990 Brittany was born. She was born c-section! I was in the hospital for a week after I had her! David worked and came in nights to see us!

One night as he was leaving the hopsital he kissed Brittany good night and he called her Doodlebug, and she turned her head and looked at him! I think she thought that was her name! After all that is what we called her pretty much the whole nine months!

When we were discharged from the hospital David came and got us. He dropped us off and instead of staying home he went back to work! He had used up all his vacation days on his dad and did not have any left to stay home and help me with our new born!!

Things were ok! But not the greatest!! He didn't help out to much! Claimed he couldn't since I nursed!!

He was never really a hands on dad!

 

 

maybe not

well it's almost 11:30 and I still have not posted, so I may not get the chance. After the kids went to school I went back to sleep, slept until 9:30. Lazed around then took a shower. a looooong shower... lazed around some more and now I am going out for a walk!

I will get back to posting memories soon!

Actually

Actually I may post again tomorrow as I have the day off!!!!!

 

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